Going Green: It Really Is Simple

- Use Only Recycled Paper.
Why: Because it saves the atmosphere about 5 pounds of Carbon Dioxide per ream of paper.

- Set you thermostat just two degrees warmer in the summer and two degrees cooler in the winter than you’re accustomed to.
Why: Because those tiny adjustments will keep approximately 2,000 pounds of Carbon Dioxide per year out of the atmosphere.

- Don’t run your dishwasher until it’s completely full.
Why: Because it will save the atmosphere about 100 pounds of Carbon Dioxide per year.

- Pick the three lamps you use the most in your house and change the bulbs to easy accessible compact fluorescent bulbs.
Why: Because you’ll eliminate an extra 300 pounds of Carbon Dioxide from the atmosphere every year.

- Adjust the thermostat on your water heater to a maximum of 120 degrees, and have it insulated.
Why: Because it saves 1,550 pounds of Carbon Dioxide from the atmosphere every year.

- Reduce the duration of your shower by two to three minutes.
Why: Because 350 pounds of Carbon Dioxide will be saved from the atmosphere every year, and less water will need to be heated.

- Check your tires every month to make sure they’re properly inflated.
Why: Because it will save 250 pounds of Carbon Dioxide from the atmosphere every year.

- Change your heating and air-conditioning filters, or clean them, as often as recommended.
Why: Because it will keep the units from having to work harder than they’re designed to work to keep you comfortable, as well as keeping an extra 350 pounds of Carbon Dioxide out of the atmosphere every year.

- Turn your computer off rather than letting it “sleep”, and unplug electronics when you’re not using them.
Why: Because it will save a minimum of 1,200 pounds of Carbon Dioxide from the atmosphere every year.

- Take care of the simple chore of caulking and weather stripping your exterior doors and windows.
Why: Because not only will you be more comfortable all year long, but you’ll also eliminate 1,700 pounds of Carbon Dioxide from the atmosphere every year.

- Plant a tree, or have one planted by an organization like “Tree People” in honor of a lost loved one.
Why: Because you’ll be adding more oxygen to the atmosphere, and saving an amazing 2,000 pounds of Carbon Dioxide from the atmosphere per year.

- Switch from your current shower head to a low-flow shower head.
Why: Because it will save approximately 350 pounds of Carbon Dioxide from the atmosphere every year.

Those simple adjustments alone add up to a savings of 9,850 pounds of Carbon Dioxide per year. If you need a little more motivation to be convinced, they’ll also save you about 2,200 dollars every year.

Cheating – No Excuses!

No excuse can be made for cheating. Its NOT beyond anyone’s control. Its NOT a mistake. It IS a choice. Saying it happened because something was missing, unfulfilling or ANYTHING else is  a cop out. PERIOD.

For any relationship to be healthy we have to be healthy coming into it. Cheating is a sign you’re not, and thinking that you can cheat and “move on” like it never happened is simply foolish. You have decided to damage your relationship and those who love you. You chose to hurt them. That is NOT love. Once you have cheated the relationship is never the same again. The dynamic of the relationship has changed. You have invited another person into the realm of intimacy you were asking to share exclusively with your significant other. You have made your lover a sexual competitor! When you cheated you made a choice, a selfish one that placed your significant other last in line of your priorities.

So many spout “Forgive and forget”! People forgive, but they do not forget being hurt. It’s our nature to remember to protect our sensitivity. Anyone who can forget it like nothing ever happened is the owner of a very hardened heart. A hardened heart limits our ability to love openly and that should never be an attractive trait! Why ask your lover to harden their heart? Once hurt, a person becomes guarded with you, opening up and talking to you leaves them only more vulnerable to injury. Trust and respect are earned and once you have cheated you have lost those. You have abused of them. Cheating is abuse and you will have to earn their trust and respect again before anyone will make themselves vulnerable again to you, anyone that is that really cares for you.

Healthy people in healthy relationships: Trust and are trustworthy, Respect and are respectful, give and receive love without condition or manipulation, are honest, open and vulnerable. Real love, real intimacy encourages it, and fosters it.

If you marry and haven’t addressed your personal issues before hand, you will struggle uphill daily and infidelity will terrorize your relationship throughout its life. Once children are involved it only becomes more heartbreaking and more painful.

The true tragedy of cheating is when you play, everyone who loves you pays long afterward and it never had to happen in the first place. Cheating is always, always a choice that YOU made.

Internet Porn: The New Crack Cocaine!

Internet porn is worse than crack cocaine, and it leads to addiction, divorce, relationship problems,  pedophilia, boob jobs, erectile dysfunction, and getting fired from your job, and some times even death. The internet is the perfect drug delivery system because, you can have the drug pumped into your house, work, cell phone, and even your car these days, and it’s all free 24/7-365 days a year for the most part.

Porn addicts can have a more difficult time recovering from their addiction than cocaine addicts, cocaine users can get the drug out of their system, but pornographic images stay in the brain forever. Pornography biologically causes a direct release of the most addictive substance. Pornography causes masturbation, which causes a release of naturally occurring opioids, it basically does what heroin can’t do, in effect!

More research should be done about this, but more than likely it won’t happen. Because the world and most people in world don’t see a problem with this, or they have became addicts themselves. I have come to believe that people with this disease need to look to a high power (The Better Choice) or they can screw up up their lives for a few more years, and the goverment will probably have a pill out to take it all away.(Shaking Head).

Now don’t get me wrong here, I like sex just as much as the next person. But, in all the years I have been dating I have come to a conclusion that this, should be between two people that love each other, and better yet, wait until marriage, not just to get your rocks off.

Friend In Need, Friend Indeed!

‘A friend in need, is a friend indeed’ is a popular saying, implying that people become friends when they need something from you. Whilst this can indeed be true, the reverse is also significant. When you are in need, then you find out who your real friends really are.

REAL FRIENDS: Real Friends are those who no matter what has happened or is going to happen, they are there for you. They listen without asking anything in return. They ask how they can help, these are real friends.

FAIR WEATHER FRIENDS: Fair weather Friends are those who are most likely to appear when they are in need or, at best, when you are not in need. Real Friends would never do this.

FAKE FRIENDS: Fake Friends are people who just talk to you when they have no one else to talk too, Again Real Friends would never do this.

CONCLUSION: Real Friends do not appear immediately. The best way to find friends is often not to look for them. When you least expect it, you will find you have more friends than you knew.